Ha, ha, Frou Frou! I know why you’re asking this question. You’re still shocked I praised French women in my answer to your last question, so you found the one question that you knew I would find no excuse for French women… You’re a sneaky one, aren’t you?
So why is that?
It’s pretty simple, but to understand that, you need to understand French women’s psychology (some people would say that it’s an impossible mission, but I don’t think it is).
French women want only the advantages of life, and none of the inconveniences. French women want total equality with men, but only when it’s in their favor. For example, when the conscription still existed in France, no French woman ever thought it should become compulsory for women. I say same rights also means same duties. They don’t.
Back to our topic and back in the days -I’m thinking 19th Century, but maybe even earlier than that- things were pretty simple: men would ask women out, because men and women were not equal.
Sure women could say no, sometimes, but an unmarried woman had pretty much no rights, so she could say no a few times if she wanted to, but she would take the risk to not find anybody else, and remember that at the time if you’re not married when you’re a woman, you can’t really have a social life or a social status or anything else for that matter.
Women needed to get married as soon as possible when reaching adulthood, so they could choose what men they’d end up with, but once they did, they signed up for life, and most of the time not such a fun life.
Hopefully, I’m not teaching you anything here as it was the same pretty much in all of the Western world (and still is more or less like that in many other places).
Time passed, women became more equal and more independent from men. In all logic, rules of courting should have changed accordingly, just like they have changed in most countries where men and women are more or less equal.
But something went wrong somewhere.
My guess is that as French women being sneaky little ones, and French men being stupid when it comes to the topic of French women (I must be different as I know better and haven’t touched a French woman that way in more than a decade, mostly because I got tired of their stupid mind games… they make good friends though… more info on that topic there).
And French women realized that if they kept having men chase them around without never giving them anything else than a “no” or sometimes a “yes” when the guy had basically to go blind and take all the risks especially looking like a fool (and when you look like a fool in France, you’re pretty much done… ok, I exaggerate a bit), while they’d just had to sit and laugh.
You see, in most Western cultures, men still ask women out, but women give them clues beforehand so that the guy -if he’s not an idiot- pretty much knows what to expect when he asks her out.
Not in France.
In France, most women will be as secretive as possible (with the guy) about what they think about a potential mate, not giving him anything. They think that if the guy is clueless about what will happen, he’s taking risks and in their eyes it proves… I have no idea what it proves. Some call that “romanticism”, I call that “playing games”.
And of course, they don’t seem to realize that with that kind of behavior, they’re missing lots of opportunities too. In my younger years, while many girls turned me down when I was sure they liked me, there were about as many about whom I learned, months, sometimes years after the facts, that they actually were into me and I didn’t have the slightest clue, because they wouldn’t give me one.
While, on the other hand, I never had a foreign woman turn me down. I’m not saying that I could get any foreign woman I wanted, that would be very pretentious of me. I’m saying that with foreign women, I always knew if they were interested in me or not, so I just wouldn’t ask out the ones that I knew were not interested.
If you add to that the fact that most of them are immature bitches, always want everything and its contrary and love playing games, all of those without understanding the meaning of fun, you’ll understand why more and more French men give up on them and turn towards foreign women.
But all in all, the answer of your question is that they want all the good sides of everything and none of the bad sides. So they want men to take all the risks in the “approach” phase of the relationship, and they just want to be passive and then bitch about it if you don’t treat them like superior beings. 🙂
To be fair, I must add that not all French women love to treat men badly and most will not ask men out, nor give them signs because of peer pressure (sort of) and education. This is the way it’s being done by everyone around them, so this is what they do. And this horrible behavior gets perpetuated generation after generation that way.
(now I can’t wait for the answers of my French female readership and have their side of the story… just know that if you plan an all out flame war against me, I’m pretty busy these days -as you can see when the number of posts here- and I may not have time to humor you as much as I would like to).